BLOG: Lies I Believed so I Wouldn't Feel a Need to Change
This past week was both a celebration and time of reflection. A bittersweet for sure.
It reminded me of the two different people I've had the experience of being.
Here's what I mean.
Do you ever look at pictures of yourself and think back to how you were feeling?
I do. So powerful- right?
It's also why I love before and after pictures. They tell two stories of ONE life.
When I see other peoples, it gives me HOPE.
Which is exactly what I want to offer you.
Ironically, the picture on the left, I have this "tough attitude" expression on my face. I'd get that look often when I'd drink alcohol.
It was this feeling of being strong, not caring what others thought, and like I was invincible.
Unfortunately, it was 100% false- FAKE.
Now, I look at that picture and see emptiness, my eyes glazed over, I'm actually numb and not truly present in the experience I was having.
Even though, at the time, I thought I was having a "fun time", visiting some of my closest childhood friends, and in my favorite city, Chicago.
How is that possible then?
It had nothing to do with my circumstances.
It had everything to do with my beliefs, the thoughts I'd have on a regular basis.
This made a HUGE difference in the way I lived my life, which I was totally unaware of at the time.
Here are some of my old thoughts:
- I deserve to drink because I've had a rough past (childhood, broke off an engagement, etc).
- It's my opportunity to "have fun", so I'm going to "let loose" and overindulge.
- If you knew what I've had to deal with, you'd be angry too.
- Life hasn't been fair to me.
- People in my life are difficult to deal with, drinking/eating makes it more manageable.
- I'll never be someone who's disciplined.
- My dreams are so far out of my reach.
- I just want to "feel better".
- I'm fearful of my future, I don't want to think about it.
- This is too hard.
- I'm so tired of "letting myself down".
The truth is, my life used to feel unmanageable. If it wasn't fear, it was my pleasure-seeking habits that would control me.
I wanted OUT so bad but I didn't know HOW and was afraid I'd just fall back into my old ways again.
If you can relate to any of any of those thoughts, then don't worry, there is HOPE.
You don't have to stay there, no matter what, you're not obligated to keep believing those lies.
Remember, that's only a part of my story, thankfully, it wasn't the end. The only reason it wasn't, is that I gave myself permission to consider an alternative.
Permission to consider the STORY I was believing about my life wasn't true.
That MAYBE, what I was believing were lies... all of them.
When I first started to consider that, it was SUPER uncomfortable!
It felt like I was trying to align with someone who didn't exist... yet.
This work had really just started after I hired my coach. She'd been successful with the same work before me. I knew she could get me to where I wanted to be.
I took the work seriously. I showed up willing and I stayed hopeful.
There was no "magic pill" and it didn't happen overnight. It has paid off and still is!
Now, I get to offer people the same thing. We take them from where they are (similar to old Whitney) to where they WANT to be (new Whitney).
We offer them OUR belief in them.
We provide them with a process that gets results easier and faster.
What do you feel on a regular basis that keeps you stuck? What stops you from getting what you want?
I encourage you to leave that behind, to stop believing the lies, and take a chance on a FREE CONSULTATION with Jake and me.
We can get you to the place you want to be, you just have to be willing.
The journey isn't painless but it's ENTIRELY, 100%, worth every bit!
Have an awesome week y'all.
With love,
Whitney
